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Fear- the extended version December 19, 2008

Filed under: fear,self-discovery,yoga — Jenny @ 2:14 am

So today I had a lot of pent up energy and I felt a little scattered and spastic. Then when I was at yoga, laying in relaxation after our practice and it hit me what that energy was that was coursing through my veins: fear.

I don’t have a lot of deep revelations about fear or anything really insightful to say about it. I actually just want to air my fears. I’m looking at it this way: I’m going to lay them out there, say them to you, say them to myself and then I’m going to practice letting go of them. I’m going to practice confidence in myself and I’m going to practice trust in myself. I was laying there at the end of class today, trying my best and, I’ll admit, struggling to relax and let idle thoughts pass me by, recognizing them with out judgment and just letting them go right out of my mind again, to be attended to later. Somewhere in there it dawned on me that of all the people in all the world, it often happens that I am the person I trust the least. Sometimes when I am about to embark on a new journey and a new experience, before the time comes to take action, I will doubt myself and my abilities. Sometimes I don’t trust that I can be a leader.

Okay, I’ll stop being ambiguous. The time for me to begin teaching yoga is drawing nigh and I’m scared. I did a home practice recently and while it was good and fine… it didn’t feel the same as when I’m being led by a teacher. When you go to a yoga class, you do the yoga that is right for you but in the style of the teacher. I was at home and it occurred to me that I don’t know what my personal yoga style is. So I’m slowly discovering it; I won’t fully know until I do more practices on my own. It’s exciting, absolutely, but it’s also scary. It’s like starting all over from the beginning. So then I got nervous about leading a class when I’m not even sure what my style is. And what if my style doesn’t suit the students? What if people leave my class without a feeling of satisfaction and fulfillment? How can I possibly ever be as effective a teacher as the ones I look up to so much?

You see where this is/was going? I say is/was because in relaxation tonight I felt a release. I still need to really, really, really let go of these fears. I must practice with resolve my ability to recognize that I am not those fears and they will not rule me. Recognizing the source of my feelings and my fears today felt like the first huge leap to letting them go. My yoga is a budding lotus flower. It is growing and blossoming. With practice and time, I will become comfortable in my style. It might be different than what people at our studio are used to. I’m not Chris. I’m not Andrew. No one expects me to be them. Yoga is inherently “perfect,” when practiced mindfully and with intent, it can never be wrong. In such a way, we will always receive something we need in each of our practices.

Also, I need to take the teachers off the pedestal I’ve put them on. They have opened their arms to me as a peer. The saying goes that it is only when we achieve non-attachment that we are free and equal. So then, only by detaching myself from the notion that these people are somehow greater than me (physically, spiritually, emotionally), can I become their equal. It’s so simple yet I continue to see this theme and a struggle in my life. (Who doesn’t though, really?)

I’m beginning to see this pattern of fear and lack of confidence and trust in myself and am becoming familiar with what brings it to the forefront. In savasana tonight, after my little revelation, the first thing I did was affirm myself. It’s the jumping off point here, really. I know I’m strong and ambitious and dedicated to this and when I pause, breath and envision myself as a yoga teacher, deep inside of me I feel the truth and I know my capability. I have astounding potential inside of me.

The same goes not just for me, but for all of us. For all of us who suffer at the hands of our fears. So let’s all practice together. Let’s let go. Let’s release our fears. Let’s rise up above our egos.

Let’s all be the blossoming lotus and most certainly let us remember how this flower is beautiful in all stages of its growth.


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